Monday, October 31, 2016

Random : Benarkah Beberapa Blogger di Indonesia Kehilangan Ciri Khas dan Haus akan Materi?


(photo taken at Harrod's Tea Room, Bangkok)

Halo semuanya, kembali lagi di postingan random di blog aku ini. Hari ini aku membuat tulisan dalam Bahasa Indonesia karena memang ditujukan kepada kondisi yang sedang terjadi di Indonesia. Terutama dalam era digital, pastinya banyak orang yang sudah tahu mengenai "blogger". Seperti aku ini, aku menggunakan waktu kosong aku untuk menulis artikel pada paltform yang disebut blog. Blog aku ini milik pribadi dan aku tidak tergabung dalam agency apa pun dalam proses pengembangan blog aku ini. Sebenarnya aku suka sekali ide bergabung ke dalam agency digital publication terutama untuk para blogger, hal itu sangat membantu sekali menghubungkan koneksi si blogger dan clientnya. Tetapi karena aku masih fokus ke pendidikan dan aku sudah ada di tahun akhir (mempersiapkan skripsi), jadi aku belum bisa memutuskan terikat kontrak.

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Oke, sekarang waktunya membahas hal yang berhubungan dengan judul artikel ini.

Jawabannya, iya. Fenomena ini betul terjadi karena maraknya media influencers jadi banyak yang hanya saling mengikuti. Belakangan, aku juga melihat beberapa orang hanya ingin menjadi blogger atau media influencer lainnya karena mengejar uang, publikasi, dan ketenaran.

Hal yang aku pertama ingin aku singgung adalah INVITATION. Banyak (tidak semuanya) dari mereka yang haus akan invitation demi mendapatkan publikasi dan ketenaran tersebut. Well, tidak salah kok dengan publikasi. Karena bila kita semakin well known, client juga akan semakin sering mendekat. Tetapi yang salah adalah bila seorang blogger mengejar invitation suatu event, yang tidak ada sangkut pautnya dengan hal yang Ia tulis di blognya. Lalu menghalalkan segala cara untuk dapat invitation tersebut.

Aku tipe orang yang kalau mendapat invitation banyak, akan aku bagikan ke teman-teman blogger lainnya. Aku sendiri orangnya lebih bersikap supportive kepada rekan sesama blogger. Tapi ada beberapa blogger yang mau menyimpan semuanya bagi dirinya sendiri. Istilahnya, tidak mau memberikan kursi ke sesama rekannya blogger. Padahal, kita semua berada di dalam satu komunitas.

Jangan takut menolak invitation yang tidak sesuai dengan diri kamu sendiri atau konsep dari blog kamu. Personally, aku pernah mendapatkan invitation untuk pergi mendapatkan plastic surgery service gratis. Tetapi karena aku rasa itu tidak perlu, ya akan aku tolak berapa pun bayarannya. 

Lalu, itu sudah menjadi adat sepertinya kalau blogger punya gengnya sendiri. Group of friends itu normal karena pasti kita ada rasa nyaman sama beberapa orang. Akan tetapi, berkumpul dan membicarakan blogger lain... well, is that too mean?

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Hal yang kedua adalah drama mengenai MATERI dan KEHILANGAN CIRI KHAS.

Jujur saja, di awal aku buat blog ini karena pure karena aku suka menulis. Melalui blog aku bisa menulis sebagai bentuk ekspresi aku disini. Aku bisa istirahat sejenak dari kesibukan sehari-hari dan menghabiskan waktu menulis apa yang ada di pikiran aku disini. Aku bisa sharing informasi dan inspirasi ke banyak pembaca blog. Mungkin memang aku dan beberapa blogger yang masih mempunya visi dan misi yang sama tidak akan terlalu berbau komersil, akan tetapi menurut aku itu justru yang baik. Kita menulis benar-benar sesuai dengan kejadian yang terjadi dan sesuai pengalaman pribadi. (Aku sangat berterima kasih untuk semua clients yang pernah bekerjasama dengan aku, karena mereka mendukung hal yang aku yakini.)

Menurut aku sendiri, uang, publikasi, dan ketenaran adalah bonus yang didapatkan. Aku tidak perlu menjilat orang lain agar followers aku banyak atau membuat aku bisa disorot oleh media. Aku mau bisa berkarya karena aku serius ingin berkarya. Walaupun itu membutuhkan proses bertahun-tahun, setidaknya itu karena jerih payah diri sendiri. Bukan hasil menjelekan orang lain, mengemis undangan event, atau itu tadi... menjilat / menjadi social climber agar meraih keuntungan bagi diri sendiri.

Sedikit miris rasanya melihat beberapa teman-teman aku sendiri berubah karena uang, publikasi, dan ketenaran. Isi blog postnya semua adalah postingan sponsor dan komersial. Ciri khas blogger itu sendiri jadi hilang dan apa yang ditulis semuanya hanya berdasarkan kontrak yang sudah diarahkan. Bahkan client pun harus dipilih. Personally, aku sangat pemilih dalam hal client. Aku paling tidak suka bekerjasama dengan client yang menyuruh aku mengubah gaya penulisan aku dan memaksa aku untuk menulis pendapat yang bukan dari pikiran aku sendiri. Contoh : aku tidak cocok dengan produk A, tetapi client tetap memaksa agar aku mengetik semua hal bagus mengenai produk A.

Postingan instagram semua berbau komersil, sponsor, dan endorsement. Aku tekankan disini bahwa MENERIMA JOB, BARANG DARI SPONSOR / ENDORSEMENT ITU TIDAK SALAH. Tetapi kalau semua isi postingan itu adalah apa yang orang dari company mau lihat, lalu apa ciri khas kamu? Apa yang membedakan kamu dengan orang yang lainnya?

Justru banyak blogger besar yang awalnya memulai karir blogging tanpa mengejar uang, ketenaran, dan publikasi. Contohlah mereka, karena mereka bisa well known seperti sekarang karena tujuang awal mereka suka menulis dan berbagi informasi. Bukan karena "ah mau terkenal biar kaya,.." dan alasan busuk lainnya.

I know it sounds bullshit, tetapi pernah kah aku menyebarkan hal negative di segala postingan aku di blog ini atau social media? Karena aku begitu pemilih agar yang aku karyakan bisa dinikmati semurni mungkin. Beberapa endorsement atau sponsor tentu aku terima, kerjasama juga. Tetapi tidak 90% isi blog atau postingan aku di social media berbau iklan / endorse / sponsor kan? BUKAN BANGGA akan diri sendiri, akan tetapi kenyataannya memang yang seperti aku ini mungkin meteran ketenaran akan jauh dibandingkan mereka yang menjilat sana sini. Tidak apa-apa, my life is still fine. Aku masih happy tanpa harus melakukan hal-hal yang terkesan memaksa atau orang jawa bilang "ngoyo".

Maka dari itu, aku mau mengajak para teman-teman blogger dan kalian yang ingin menjadi blogger (atau media influencer lainnya) agar bisa cerdas dan be classy! Classy bukan berarti jual mahal, akan tetapi JANGAN SAMPAI MENJUAL CIRI KHAS kalian cuma karena kalian haus akan uang, ketenaran, dan publikasi. Kita ini merupakan bagian dari media di era modern, jangan ikut bergabung dengan mereka yang hanya dikontrol oleh pihak tertentu.

Be a smart blogger and give your true self in front of your blog readers! 

Jangan hidup cuma mengikuti orang lain.

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Aku juga sangat kecewa dengan beberapa clients. Bukan aku saja yang mengalami, tetapi beberapa blogger juga ada yang kecewa atas respon dari beberapa pihak clients. Bila seorang blogger menolak untuk bekerjasama, jangan sampai langsung diberi cap C-Line Blogger atau B-Line Blogger. Untuk apa? Ga semua blogger punya followers banyak di instagram loh... tetapi unggul di platform social media yang lain. Contohnya, aku sendiri tidak terlalu mengejar followers di Instagram, akan tetapi akun aku sudah terverifikasi / menjadi verified account di platform ask.fm. Do I deserve to recieve certain labels? Nope at all.

Untuk para clients di luar sana, tenaga blogger memang sangat penting untuk mempromosikan produk atau program kalian. Karena era digital, cara mempromosikan sesuatu juga harus diperbaharui. Jujur Blogger itu mempunyai massa yang banyak di dunia maya. Terlebih setiap hari setiap orang akan banyak menghabiskan waktu di gadget mereka dari mulai bekerja - mencari hiburan. Akan tetapi, mempromosikan produk atau program bukan berarti harus menghilangkan suatu ciri khas dari blogger yang kalian ajak kerjasama. Sehingga buatlah kontrak kerjasama sebijaksana mungkin dan bisa menguntungkan bukan hanya client dan blogger, melainkan tidak menipu para pembaca / orang yang mengakses artikel tersebut.

Tuesday, October 18, 2016

Beauty Review : My Copper Brown and Red Magenta Ombre Hair Color



(this photo above was taken after one week of hair coloring procedure)




Hello everyone! 

I am here to share about my new hair color. I did mention before in my other previous post that I really wanted to change my hair color. This is my first time to give my crown to a professional hair stylist. I never want to try it before because I feel afraid if my hair will get damage. But finally I did it! Many of you also ask about where I get it done, how much was the price, etc. So, in this post I will explain one by one. 

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By the way, just a simple disclaimer : this blog post is not getting sponsored by anyone. This is my personal experience. I only share my personal thoughts.

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First question, Where was the place?
I was getting it done at Cyberhair Youth Salon at South Jakarta area. I got a recommendation from one of my bestfriend, Dara. She usually got her a hair trim and ever did hair coloring there too. It ended up so nice on her. Also, I just recognized that several of my friends also ever tried some procedures in that Salon.

You can google map it from your GPS to get there!

Second question. How much it will cost me if I want to get my hair done same as you?
For me, I was using 2 different hair coloring products from L'OREAL. I got a single bleach for my inner part and bottom part of my hair. My hair is considered to be a long hair, it will cost you differently too. In total, I spent Rp 1,200,000,- for the entire procedures and treatments.

NEED TO BE AWARE : The price might change for each person. But it's the nicest deal and the result is amazing. If you only use one hair coloring product without bleach, it will cost different as well. But for 2 different hair coloring + single bleach + wash +  blow + nice result + long hair = it's a freaking nice deal.

Third question, How long it will last?
The red magenta color will fade after one month, at least for me. Because I don't wash my hair too often. Remember, do not wash your hair too often! Why? It will fade the hair color and take the natural oil from your scalp.Then how I manage my hair color? I only washed my hair once every 3 days and I always use hair perfume or hair shampoo to make my hair look fresh. The salon suggested me to retouch after one week, but it was still looking fine for me. I also went to Seoul, South Korea after that. Basically, I still don't have time to get my hair retouch.

These are pictures from several views and lighting :


Fourth question, Should I make an appointment first?
For hair coloring and any other extra procedures (that basically need extra preparations), you should.

Fifth question, Do you have their contact person and address?

They have several branches :
Jakarta Selatan
Address: Jl. Bumi No.26, RT.2/RW.3, Gunung, Kby. Baru, Kota Jakarta Selatan, Daerah Khusus Ibukota Jakarta 12120
CP : 021-7279-2750

Kemayoran
Address : Food Centrum GF-12
CP : 021-2265-1543 

Alam Sutera
Address :  Ruko Palmyra Square kav.25A no.18 Alam Sutera - Serpong
CP : 021-2931-4877

Sixth question, Is your hair getting damage?
Not really. It's still smooth and fine. They are not coming off suddenly or anything weird. Just make sure you ask an advice to your hairstylist about the treatment. The hairstylist will honestly give you hair products recommendation. Natural / less chemical hair products are highly recommended from me. I use Herbal Essences shampoo and conditioner. But if you want to use another shampoo / conditioner for coloring hair, then it's okay as well.

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I hope this information can help you. I really do admit that this salon has the nicest deal. All people who work in that salon are so nice and friendly. They will suggest you something good for your hair. I actually wanted to do Pink ombre hair, but the hair stylist suggested me to do red magenta ombre instead. I didn't regret it at all. My hair stylist at that time knew that I was afraid. It was my first time bleach my hair. 

I am not promoting or something. I don't get paid by doing this. I just think this salon is a good salon for students who want to get a nice hair. In another salon, they promoted their hair stylists for being Japanese or Korean and they will charge you insanely. Well, on of my friend ever got disappointed by the result. She got a fail ombre purple hair but she already paid Rp 2,000,000,- ++ to a Japanese Salon here in Jakarta.

Make sure you do your research before you do it. Because you might get a new amazing crown or maybe you ruin / sacrifice your own crown! Good luck!


xoxo,
Margaret

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Wednesday, September 28, 2016

My Journey to Thailand - Chocolate Ville Bangkok


Before I am telling a story how we ended up went to Chocolate Ville Bangkok, I would like to explain my outfit of the day first. I am not posting fashion OOTD updates for awhile, so I am going to pay you back with a new OOTD update.

Love Hand Sign Baseball Cap - Night Market Siam
Satin Long Sleeve Top - MakaStore
High Waisted Shorts - Chatuchak Weekend Market
Black Sweater
Black Suede Backpack
Shoes - Adidas Superstar Leopard Core Black



from left to right : Salwa, Dara, Gisella Anastasia, Minory, and Me










Me with Salwa, the birthday girl. 
Glad that Salwa likes that dress from H&M. She is a big fan of that brand.





Chocolate Ville
351, Khan Na Yao, Bangkok 10230, Thailand
OPENING HOURS at 4PM - 12AM (Mon - Sun)

It was Salwa's birthday. We gave her a fail birthday survive the night before. It was so funny. Salwa actually went to the bathroom in our hotel room. Dara and Minory prepared the birthday cake for her.. We didn't find birthday candle, so half hour before we bought an aromatic candle. We thought at least Salwa could blow the birthday candle. But ended up, we didn't even ready yet and Salwa already finished her business in the bathroom. In the same night, we decided an awesome plan for the next day. 

We went to Chocolate Ville Bangkok. We already read so many good reviews about the place and food in there. Before we went to Chocolate Ville, we tried to visit Terminal 21 first. After we finished our business there, we ordered an online transportation. We went there by a car, thanks to uber application. We ordered uber from Terminal 21 and straight went to Chocolate Ville. Because it's quite far from Siam area, there is no BTS (Bangkok SkyTrain) providing us to go there.



Recommendation to get there (Chocolate Ville)?
I do really recommend you guys to go the by uber or grab application. It's way more efficient and cheaper than taking taxi to be honest.

What are we going to do in Chocolate Ville?
  • Having great late lunch or dinner with your friends or family.
  • Taking bunch of selfies or photos. This place is also instagram-able.
Other details :
How to go back?
You can order taxi from Chocolate Ville. They will offer you a nice package to several destination with a quite good price. For me and my friends, we were going back to Siam area. We decided to went to Siam Paragon afterwards.

Prepare your budget to visit Chocolate Ville Bangkok. I really recommend you guys to try their food and taking photos there. It's refershing, relaxing, and fun at the same time. I do recommend you to visit on weekdays rather than weekend. Because so many people are going there in the weekend, it will be so packed with lots of people.


xoxo,
Margaret

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Tuesday, September 27, 2016

My Journey to South Korea - Thousand Miles Away


Hi, I am Margaret. By writing this blog post, I am sharing my current condition online. A lot of people including my closest ones and even people who don't know me can see my blog post. Well, deep inside I am such an emotional person. I never show much emotion outside because I am feeling afraid of what people might think of me even I already said multiple times, "I don't care what other people say." Sometimes, I do care. I still care what other might say or think about me. That's why, I am choosing to write things on my blog because I don't clearly express it from the outside.

I just want to know my paths. Maybe, I will laugh and smile one day when I read this blog post again with my future husband (or kids hahaha).


Several times, I mentioned about my bullying experience in my high school. It was horrible and gladly my life now is definitely way better than my life when I was in high school. In high school, so many people cheated on me (including my best friend and my ex-boyfriend). He broke up with me and went on a date with another girl that used to be his best friend. The worst thing was that girl lied about her illness to get my ex-boyfriend's attention. Drama huh? She is not even dead yet.

I never told my parents about my past relationship because it's still not something necessary to do. I am not getting married yet. 

Three years ago, I did try to open a new chapter. Finally,... I went to uni life. I discovered so many things. From the happiest to saddest parts came into my life. I know that life is not going to be smooth all the time. Including now.

Back in 2014, I met another guy. Just call him "S". I knew him from one of my best friend. My best friend now is a well known book author and writer. Okay, comeback to the main topic. He is not Indonesian, he is Korean. Yes, I met this guy one year after my last relationship. I met him in a cafe in West Jakarta area, not really far from my home. At that time, I was wearing white top, skinny jeans, and high heels. He was just wearing casual t-shirt and pants. Nothing flattering or such as. But he has a cute smile.

"S" is so nice to me and full of manner. He was never complaining about small things. I never feel uncomfortable around him and I always feel comfortable about myself. Is that amazing? I don't need to feel worry about being too skinny, wear too much makeup, or eat too much in front of him. I can do whatever I want to do (of course by using my common sense). Honestly, he knows how to treat woman in a right way. On that point, I realized ....maybe,... I fell for him. 

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He stayed in Jakarta for one month. Until one day, he said that he was also falling for me. He brought a doll with him and said that in front of public. A bit cheezy but hey, it's sweet. That was my first experience. He's a man, a real man. He's so brave by did that thing only for me. I was feeling unsure because I knew that he was going to go back to his country. But he said, "why don't we try it first?"

and... ended up I said, "yes." 


I agreed to be in a relationship again. Is it a trap?



We went on a date and we continue to met several times. We watched movies together, had amazing lunch and dinner together. We also tried to ride Bajaj and it was too funny. I paid him a cup of Baskin Robbins ice cream in Pacific Place. Everything was wonderful. That was my first time, I felt that someone wanted me to be beside him all the time. 

You know... I failed in my past relationships. I was feeling depressed and sad at the same time. That's why his existence was being my happiness.





Until, it's about time we did need to say goodbye and welcoming Long Distance Relationship.

We did skype almost every week. Another challenge was coming in front of us that he wanted to go to Europe. I couldn't stop him from reaching his own dreams and built experiences. He went to Germany and probably tried to get a job there.

We were okay for 8 months of our relationship and after that we already hard contacted each other because time differences. Plus, I was busy with my work (even until now, I am still working part time and studying in uni) and he was also getting busy with his start up company with his friends. When I was about to sleep, he's probably still outside.

I really wanted to go to Germany, because he also asked for it... but I didn't have much money. My parents do have money but I couldn't ask for my parents' money for my own sake. 



Until next month... finally, he said that sentence... "I think, we need to break up. I don't want you to feel this way. I want you to be free because it seems I am holding you too tight. You can go and date another guy in Indonesia if you want. I am so sorry but it's better for us."


I said, "why?" but ended up I tried to understand the condition.


We broke up. I felt so weird. and it's sad that I am getting used to feel this way.


I continued my life like usual and decided to plan craziest thing in my life. I bought tickets to South Korea and luckily my friend, Dara helped me about the payment and everything. Luckily again that my other friends also wanted to go to South Korea for traveling. 

I worked 3 times harder. I was saving up my money. I did study harder to reach my goals. I did so many great things for the past 2 years. Collaborating with designers, participate as a guest on talkshow or seminar, and many more.


From 2014 and now it's 2016, 2 years passed. We didn't say hi and lost contact for 2 years. Until one day, I was working on my position paper for Model United Nations and I decided to open my facebook. I tried to check "S" status and position. Surprisingly, he already came back to South Korea too. I tried to contact him trough facebook chat and said that I am going to meet him this September. 





He replied.





I couldn't handle my tears. In fact that he actually replied my message and agreed to meet me again in Seoul in September 2016.


after 2 years not contacting each other.... Finally, I heard something again from him.


-Me and my friends went to South Korea-


7th September 2016, I met him in Seoul. I saw his face for the first time after 2 years we were lost contact. He was still looking the same with his funny behavior and smiley face.

My friends dropped me at the EXIT 10 Jonggak station. I ran to him and hugged him tightly. Surprisingly, he also opened his hands for me.

We both were so nervous.

After that, my friends went to other place and we both went to grab some chimaek or Chicken Maekju (Maekju means beer in Korean). We talked a lot and realized that he was trying hard to survive in Europe. I know that "S" is a nice man. We broke up because we were busy and still young for reaching our own dreams. He never lied to me about things that he always did..

He did compliment me. He said, "You look good today. Your jacket is so nice, where did you get it?"

Oh cheesy, but admit that girls... deep down in our heart ... we do like it.

I said, "I bought it 2 days ago in COEX Mall because GDragon wore it in a commercial."

and then he laughed.

I miss his laugh tho.

He said, "You are stupid. GD only wore that for a commercial. But you look good in that. You look like a girl version of GD."

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After that, we went on a walk and decided to chill under the bridge at Cheonggyecheon (청계천) area. We talked until 1AM there. It was such a beautiful memory. I could stay with him for one night and talked about so many things. He even talked about his feeling for me and he remembered every detail about me when the first time we met in that cafe in Jakarta.


I honestly didn't want to sleep and wake up in the next morning to say goodbye again for the second time. Maybe this is answering his question when he asked "why are you not sleeping yet?" at that night.



We are not deciding anything serious and we are not coming back together (yet). I don't know where this feeling is going to go too. We are still young and reaching our own dreams. But love is still love. No matter how it's going to be ended, he "was" my best boyfriend ever.

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For "S"

Everything was precious with you. Thanks for making me comfortable to be around you and also with myself. I am definitely going to comeback to South Korea, but I don't know how the future will welcome us. Maybe you already find someone who is better than me or vice versa. Well, we both don't know. 

Also, your english is way better now, congrats for that! Actually, my korean improved a lot. I was just too shy and enjoying your voice in English better. That's why I refused to talk with you in Korean. But I stayed there in Seoul with my friends. They are all non korean speakers, that's why I did talk in Korean all the time during my stay in Seoul. No need to be worry! I studied Korean language because you always motivated me.

I am going to graduate next year. I hope, you are also going well in your study and your start up company. I will see you way more successful in the future. I just hope that one day, that massive wall between us will disappear.


사랑해,
from me who live thousand miles away from you.